Learning all we can about how best to recognise, nurture, and support an empathetic child, as a parent, teacher, auntie, grandparent, guardian is extremely important, so that as they navigate their way through life they feel supported, and become able to comprehend, use and appreciate their natural gifts and talents. We are all born psychic and intuitive, capabilities that have previously been hidden, because they are misunderstood, but more importantly, squashed by the food, medicine and lifestyles we are told we have to live by, killing our pineal gland capabilities, and 'removing' our natural journey with spirituality.
Empaths are highly tuned into the feelings of others (and themselves), they are aware when someone is not ok, and can sense and predict events, happenings, and even disease within another before it occurs. This can be felt from someone within their close circle, or a random interaction whilst amongst others, and even senses they pick on from a passer-by in the street. Unless they are guided and encouraged to safely express all they see, sense and feel, this can be very confusing for children (+ us adults too, until we fully explore the meanings).
Many of us are born empathetic, and the earlier we can grasp all that we see, sense, and feel, the easier our life journey can be. Throughout life I have been told 'you are too sensitive', no, I am just highly sensitive, intuitive, and (for me) clairsentient. I experience another's physical and emotional pain, confusion and ailment as my own, which is ok now that I know what is going on. I am thankful that I am able to recognise the 'issues' within my physical, mental and emotional state as belonging to another, so that I do not take it on as my own, and am able to release it from my form.
Let's shout it from the rooftops so that the next empathetic generation, that are here with us now, can recognise, release and thrive no matter what they have, or will take on, from others. Children are our future, and those 'diagnosed' with ADHD, ADD, Autism, and so on, are the enlightened, awake souls that operate at a different energy frequency than society is used to. They are gravely misunderstood and unnecessarily medicated, harming their future and that of the world as a whole. By learning to work with the energy within and around you, then you can better help them (& yourself) to evolve and improve life.
From the age of nine months, children begin to exhibit empathy and you will be able to recognise it by the way they react to and behave around others. How much they pick up, and, sometimes, how drained they can become by another person's energies and reactions, and also the environment they experience. It can manifest later in life too as antisocial behaviour, preferring to be alone than in groups, because they do not know what to do with the intense feelings or it is too tiring. Adults can actually make sensitive children feel so much worse, another reason to discover all you can to help. Anger is one emotion that is really upsetting to empaths and this can be when it is someone else displays it or they exhibit anger themselves because of the confusion about why they feel everything and are unable to explain it. Anxiety can easily turn to anger, especially when socially the emotions are heightened. Energetically, when you are angry the other person steals or gets your issues dumped on them from, your energy field. If the other person gets angry with you then you steal their energy - which can be toxic, negative, and broken.
Loneliness is prevalent amongst empaths, preferring to be alone than deal with the minefield of emotions they pick up around people. I remember going to sit down at the end of the garden behind the bonfire as a child, which intensified the loneliness and fear but I at least did not have to deal with the emotions of others. The more we awaken the more our coping mechanisms are elevated. One emotion I cannot tolerate is violent films (or violence anywhere), as it is unnecessary pain inflicted on another, even though it is made-up or as part of a video game etc, I know many empaths are the same.
Empathy, sensitivity and discombobulation from the external world can cause severe anxiety or addictions or excessive use of substances to quash the pain, anger and upset felt for others. I used to drink alcohol within challenging situations, hoping to turn off all I could see, sense and feel but that is not the answer. It actually makes you more susceptible to negative energies. Alcohol, caffeine and other mind and body altering substances and foods open the empath to the darkness. These causes 'attacks' from dark, negative entities that drain their energy, can damage their soul, and lead to terrible feelings of despair, self-loathing and distrust in themselves and the others. I am eager we teach the young souls how to manage their abilities to interpret the world on a deep level so that no such issues arise for them in life.
Synchronistically this quote showed up when writing this blog and if you have not been able to do the work before having/looking after little ones then NOW is the perfect time.
For those who have been able to discover spirituality and the ability to heal their past trauma and ancestral patterns before having children, that is awesome but afterwards (now) is fabulous too, so that you can break bad habits and stop, often inadvertently, passing your phobias, fears, and inner stresses onto your child. When kids have gone through troubled upbringings they can overcompensate with their own child or 'punish' others for the love they did not receive. One reason a person's healing can be delayed is that spiritual practices have been hidden and suppressed for so many years because of the dogma of religion and the control the pharmaceutical industry wants to have on humanity. Let's work to change that and as such the lives of the children of the world and their children to come. There are many books, courses, podcasts, blogs, and films that can assist your journey. Hay House is the biggest self-help publisher and they have many books for children and adults and I have included the key ones I have discovered so far here on this blog: www.handserenity.com/post/books-to-help-your-life-journey.
One big thing that can help, is to discover how to work with are the energies of the New and Full Moon. Track how you all feel the week before and after and see which affects each of you the most. Record the dates on the calendar to ensure you are conscious of the energy changes and the effects they can have on your moods, responses, and innermost feelings. The remainder of 2022 dates are here: Moon Calendar. Then you can share the knowledge with your empathetic child and help them to further nurture, and manage, their abilities.
As the empathic child feels/senses/knows how another feels it is paramount to share with them that they cannot help everyone. It is one of the hardest lessons to learn because we just want everyone to feel amazing. This can be an especially hard if it is another member of the family or someone super close to him or her. One lesson for them is that it is not their job to make others happy, although we spend life trying to
Show them how to protect their energy and cleanse their energies after difficult interactions, more details here: Handserenity Protection Blogs
Traits that appear can include being unusually sensitive to sights, smells, sounds, and emotions (like seeing others argue) and displaying a beyond their year's perception of others and situations, especially if someone is lying to them. Be open, honest, and heal yourself as much as possible to help them manage these attributes and give them a greater ability to enjoy life more fully and with less overwhelm and confusion because of their sensitivities
How children come into the world affects them massively with their ability to feel secure and grounded. The type of birth and whether they were able to choose when to come out into the world, or where induced etc, plus the method of birth, then the subsequent attachments established (or not) up until 2 years old impacts us all. Learning Reiki to apply, when troublesome emotions arise and to manage and reset the bad habits shown to them as they grow is life-changing. The youngest I have taught is 9 years old and seeing the transformations in him remind me why I get up in the morning!
Relaxation and grounding techniques must be taught through Reiki, Meditation, Yoga and such like, and practiced daily to help them to clear negativity collected from others, allowing them to remain calm from within even in chaos, and to strengthen their resolve
Encourage schools, universities, and such, to teach empathy management and emotional intelligence. We need more awakened empaths to change the trajectory of life as we know it and remove the colossal levels of stress, anxiety, depression and suicide that are paramount. Life does not have to be so hard for the next generations
Empathetic kids will complain of aches and pains from the symptoms they are experiencing because another is in pain. Symptoms such as headaches, which can occur because of a build-up of emotional stress plus tummy aches, the solar plexus chakra, where we store all complex emotions and traumatic experiences
As little people, we do not realise that it is another's pain we have taken on so the biggest thing you can do is to help them to express how they feel. As empaths, we take on the stress, pain, and discombobulating thoughts and feelings of the adults and children around us and it can be so exhausting!
Empaths have often gone through a trauma, in this or past lifetimes, and the hyper-vigilance and skill to read others is super strong
Extra bundles of love, compassion, and displays of affection, through hugs and listening to them, so that they are not stopped from expressing how they feel, even if it is an emotion or pain taken on from another, is key
Teaching them how to set intentions for their day can provide a positive focus and aid in manifesting positive thoughts
There are lots more things to discover and learn, it is an ongoing process but the more you can do now the better. One of the greatest confusions, as an empathetic child, is that you think everyone sees the world as you do, and do not grasp why others can't sense the pain, hurt and fear that you recognise in others. Learning how to deal with these talents is the best way forwards. It is a blessing, not a curse, it just needs nurturing, acknowledging and building upon, rather than trying to change them to fit into the 'norm' of society.
Please share any of your experiences and we can help everyone to nurture empathetic children so that they blossom and thrive.